My dear lovely Women,
I have seen so many of you having a tough time but trying to show that they are happy from outside.They love someone but their parents ask them to marry someone from their own society/caste. Some girls even go find the guy from their own caste (trust me, mine is a mere coincidence! ;) ) but then they are not happy with their guy. Come on! when will our India rise? Everybody is supporting Anna Hazare's movement for corruption! They call it second struggle for independence. But what about the corruption that’s in our mind!? When will we fight for that?? When will this caste/religion crap come to an end? Because of this, that bogus quota system is prevailing. And how has it helped so far? No way. Discrimination still remains!! And even if somehow corruption comes to an end, I don’t think India would still be “Independent”! Also dowry system still exists in the name of giving "gifts"! Honor killing still exists!People are still the same! Little minded, self centred and hungry for money!
Anyway lets get back to my point. Yes about your "perfect" guy telling u "perfect" things to do and not to do.
He'll be saying "do this , don't do that, don't wear this, don't work there, etc. etc.." and the girl will submit to all this thinking after all he's a Guy! So what? Is he God? Take for example she'll smile happily and tell her friends "am sorry yaar i wont go swimming with you all, i don't like wearing swim suits" LOL! no one can swim in a salwaar kameez! :P I know it’s uncomfortable to swim with so many unknown people around but we can always chose a suitable time when its less crowded and go in the company of our friends. swimming is a beautiful experience. Do not stop yourself from it because of this stupid reason. Go dance, learn salsa! Sing, act...learn and do whatever u like... do stage shows... if u have the talent.. show it to the world. don’t let others stop u from being happy and mostly content! :)
Now about studies and work. Some girls won’t go chase her dream to do higher studies or work in their dream company if its not within the "reachable" area of her boyfriend/husband or parents/parents-in-law. They'll have to drop their dreams and get a simple job and stay close where their hubby is. Their main aim is cook for them and have their babies! ha ha
But if hubby dear gets a great job even in planet Mars, he'll shift instantly and again u leave your job and go with him!
Some are advised not to put their photos in fb. Put only pictures of scenery, flowers, teddy bears, pets, or put your tiny photo standing somewhere in the crowd(so that people confuse u with someone else :P), and not to have so many friends. Not to interact so much. Hide your profile totally. I mean come on! You r a grown up girl now!! You can take your own decisions!
It’s perfectly alright to get advice on things that are right. It’s perfectly alright to ask u to stay away from unknown people. But not to be dictated for everything! That was when u were in your teens!
And why feel jealous about rest girls who are having fun, are independent, enjoy life and do not have "perfect" boyfriends who don't dictate?
I mean ofcourse freedom should never be compromised and confused with vulgarity, rudeness and attitude or getting drunk, taking drugs, violating rules. And never compromise ur safety. Just because u've got freedom doesnt mean you can do anything and everything!One should always know their limits and what's "actually" wrong!But apart from that freedom is what we all deserve. :)
Appreciate everyone. Every girl is unique, beautiful, good natured and caring. Nobody is born bad and nobody likes to remain bad. Its just situations that can turn someone temporarily bad. After all everyone likes to hear "ohh! you r so sweet. And thank you so much. God bless you". Even from your enemy! :)
U still have time. Never compromise with anything if you feel its unnecessary. Live your life happily and make others happy but never compromise your happiness for others' stupid demands! Make them understand. Ask them to adjust a bit and you also adjust a bit.. :) If they really care about you they will, but if they can't adjust even a little then don’t give a damn! go live your life. Life happens only once. And marriage too happens once (generally)! :P
So go find the best for you before it too late! Well it’s never too late though :)
Never sacrifice who you are just because someone has a problem with it. Remind yourself its ok not to be perfect.
And find a soul mate who will make you be the most "you" can possibly be. :)
With Love,
From another Girl who's totally imperfect but trying to find peace and happiness from everything.. and is still learning! :)
